Separate the person from the problem

Most conflicts have two aspects to them that need to be attended to.  There is the person you are dealing with, their relationship with you and the feelings and emotions that are influenced by the relationship.  This is where we often get hooked by falling into the heat of an argument, losing our cool and succumbing [...]

How do you see into another’s world?

Dan Siegal talks about the neuropsycholgy of empathy. Mirror neurons simulate internal states. Your brain takes in another's emotional state through your "mirror neurons" that influences your brainstem and then the body. You resonate with what you see. You start feeling thirsty as you imagine I am feeling thirsty. You start feeling angry if you [...]

How can we relate better through understanding?

Tweet If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart. — Nelson Mandela Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding. — Albert Einstein Nothing in life is to be feared, it [...]

Life is now. Be mindful of it.

Use mindfulness to investigate the way things are - be aware of your thoughts, your emotions. PJon Kabat-Zinn is professor of Medicine Emeritus and founding director of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He teaches mindfulness meditation as a [...]

By |2011-10-02T21:27:18+00:00October 2nd, 2011|Conflict Resolution, Relationship, Uncategorized|0 Comments
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